I invite you to join an exclusive club. It is a club that only the top 3% of the population will join. It is free and easy to join and open to anyone. It is the Goal Setting Club. All you have to do is have a dream, write it down as your goal with a date by which you will have achieved it and then take actions to move towards it. Sounds simple! So how is it then, that only 3% of people actually set goals?

Well laziness, or lack of motivation, too little time, fear of failure (or success!) and not knowing how, are reasons I have had regaled to me as a Life coach. All of these reasons can be addressed through coaching. I can show you how. For the sake of this newsletter we will look at motivation and then I will guide you in how to set goals. (Fear and lack of time will be topics of future newsletters.)

''If we do not change direction we are liable to end up where we are headed''
- Confucius.

People generally move away from pain and towards pleasure. This is away from and towards motivation. I'm wondering which you tend to favour?

If you move away from pain then only when the pain has become excruciating do you begin to move. It starts to push you away from what you don't want. But where are you going? If you don't know where you are going - how will you know when you have arrived? As you move away from what you don't want the motivation decreases. You slow down and then stop and then you can begin to slip back towards the pain. Only this time you will go back further to an even more painful place. (This is common in weight loss where someone is moving away from being overweight which is what they don't want. As they begin to lose weight the motivation decreases because the push has lessened. When this happens the chocolate will sneak back in, the exercise will decrease and the weight will pile back on as the person moves back towards the pain. And the cycle begins again.)

If this is your motivation style then ask yourself these questions:

'Regret weighs tonnes, commitment weighs ounces'
Nic Rixon.

A vision of your positive goal achieved future will help you keep your momentum and motivation going. Those of us with towards motivation are moving towards what we want. What are you moving towards? A vision of what you are wanting to achieve will help you keep your momentum going. So in the case of a slimmer with towards motivation they want to move towards being slim and trim. Why do they want this? They may want to be two stone lighter, more healthy, want to wear different clothes or simply fit in to the ones they've got! By picturing this new slim version of themselves they will have a destination to work towards.

Most of us have a mixture of away from and towards motivation. We need both to give a balance of pleasure and pain.

A famous study in 1953 of Yale university graduates found that 35 of the graduates had set life goals. Twenty years later a survey of the same group found that the goal setters were worth financially more than the other 97% put together. If that doesn't motivate you they also had better relationships and enjoyed better health. The factor that linked these people was that they had set goals.

Let this be testimony enough to the power of goal setting.

'People with goals succeed. Why? Because they know where they are going.'
- Nightingale

A goal is an aim or an objective. It is not a dream. Dreams are just that a dream. They are vague and ill formed. By following these steps you can turn your dream into reality by making it into a goal. How many people make a New Year's Resolution? How many people keep them? Perhaps not many because they lose sight of what they wanted or it wasn't really what they wanted after all. So let us now start again with renewed determination and vigour.

Ask yourself the following questions:

State it positively - this is your goal. It needs to be well formed. Ask yourself these questions next to check if it is well formed.

This is now your well formed goal. A goal must be specific, realistic and achievable for you, have a time attached to it, be stretching and inspirational and be ecologically sound. Well done! Now you want to create an action plan which will take you to this outcome. This is your action plan and will detail what you can and will do and when you will do it. It is now up to you to commit to your goal and take action to achieve it.

'Affirmation without action is delusion'
- Tony Robbins

"The life that conquers is the life that moves with a steady resolution and persistence toward a predetermined goal. Those who succeed are those who have thoroughly learned the immense importance of plan in life, and the tragic brevity of time."
- W.J. Davison.

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